By Ambra Phillips
One day while scrolling down my social media newsfeed, I became overwhelmingly sad. It wasn’t anything out of the ordinary that I saw, but on this particular day, my heart was burdened. I saw ladies, some younger and some older, doing what seemed to be a cry for help. They were disrespecting themselves, our men and each other.
I immediately thought of all the women and girls God placed in my life. I wanted to create a safe place for them and myself that allowed us to see and be something out of the norm. I wanted a space where we uplift, congratulate, share our successes, remind each other of our beauty, grow, and most importantly, heal.
Black women carry the biggest burden of any other group on earth. We have to demand respect, intercede for our children, fight for our families, protect our men, serve God, perform better at work than our counterparts and somewhere in the mix find time to take care of ourselves.
I am the co-founder of Tyler United, a non-profit organization that stands in solidarity with the Black Lives Matter movement. We have hosted summits, lead protests, participated in town halls with public officials and organized voter registration rallies. We are simply about progressive thinking and positive change. I am the mother to three amazing children and I also have two powerful praying grandmothers. My family ties are strong and I’ve also been blessed with some amazing girlfriends. I am here to be transparent and share my circumstances that molded me into the woman I am today, with prayers to be an inspiration and motivator to anyone who reads these words.
Everything I say may not be right, nice or politically correct, but it will be my truth. My life has been a rollercoaster ride and it is my responsibility to share my stories and life lessons with other women who look like me. To pound it into their soul that our black is beautiful, our black is worthy, our black is to be celebrated and most importantly our black is OK. It’s OK to have natural hair. It’s OK to have bigger hips. It’s OK to have dark skin. It’s OK to speak proper English. It’s OK!
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